proposal at Ellis Park..

For quite some time i thought that proposing marriage to a lady had slowly vanished. I had not seen or heard of any romantic proposals,but my family and friends every year would still get married. I asked a relative of mine weeks before his marriege  "Thomas tell me how did you propose?" Thomas replies " you see my boy i paid a lot of cows ya ne".Ya ne,my romantic Thomas. While Thomas paid a lot of cows Victor took me to a five series training of how to propose. 'You see my boy, i fell in love with your cousin a long time ago,one day while relaxing by the river side we looked at each other and we said now we should get married." "WOW" I said. That wasn't hard.
In a mission to plan my own proposal, i sought help from my father. i asked him "dad  how did you propose to mom" He looked at me and smiled then he said "dont watch these soupies they will mess up your head,love happens my boy," Loosely transelated he meant, dont propose just take.I struggled with coming to terms on how i am going to ask for her hand in marriege. I was sorrounded by a crowd of counselors but none of their counsel helped me.My sorrows were turned to joy when my friend made a historic proposal at Ellis Park stadium in front of more than thirty thousand people.What? I said to my self,. this thing really exist.Through the aid of facebook twitter and word of mouth (amakuwa/osomangase/omapepereka) the news travelled all over Jozi.
My friend had set a standard for me and others. Lungile my cousin had already started the lobola negotiations when the Ellis Park proposal happen.Later that day he phoned me and says " cousin tell me whats the most romantic place you know in jozi i want to ehhh eehh propose.". I feel you my brother. Okuyenza uDube lo Ncube kumele akuyenze.

Man, no matter how humble you are, the ego in all of us will always rise.I asked a doctor one time, why should we propose if we love each other ,we know we will get married anyway. He said "you propose so that you can: get the opnion and aproval of your partner yes or no, so that you can engage her into the mood of building a family  rather than just dating and of course so that she wont leave you.Good word of advice from the doctor. A lady friend says to me after i had asked her why she wants to be engaged " i need to have two rings phela, one gold the other diamond " Okay thats not bad at all.

WARNING

Please dont try proposing in the following areas or gatherings

During a Pirates or Chiefs match.
During a ANC rally especial youth league you might be called a bustard.
Or at Ellius park stadium you might be charged for piracy.

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